Megathread Question of the week

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QOTW is a weekly thread series started by @gato, where a simple question is asked every week. You're allowed to respond to the threads regardless of how old they are, so I created this mega-thread to serve as a central hub for those wishing to participate in the previous questions.

This thread would also serve a hub to recommend questions, leave criticism or feedback, or anything else related to the thread series.

2025 QOTW​

• Do opposites attract?
• Should you always take supplements/vitamins?
• Is it possible to exercise too much?
• What stops you from doing more work/education?
• Does work give life more meaning?
• Can you love a partner without physical attraction?
• How necessary is a capsule wardrobe for improvement?
• Can you be "universally attractive" AND "extremely alternative"?

2026 QOTW​

• How much should you invest in your appearance?
• Can you be too tall or too short?
• Do you believe in chosen family or only by blood?
• Is it really the damn phones?

 

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criticism not allowed actually

 

[Flint]

Last QOTW for 2025 was posted ->

Discussion Thread 'Can you be "universally attractive" AND "extremely alternative"?'

Dec 31, 2025

In a lot of appearance based improvement communities, alternative fashion tends to be turned away or unrecommended. Even if the individual giving the advice enjoys the aesthetic. Comments similar to "I like it but I don't think most other people would, and if your goal is to be more widely appealing, you can't do it," etc. Which makes me wanna ask - can you have both? Or does being alternative itself make it impossible to be appealing to most people? Does it change based on generations or culture/societal norms at the time? etc.

• gato
• Replies: 3
• Forum: Beauty and Aesthetics

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Discussion Thread 'How much should you invest in your appearance?'

Jan 7, 2026

Is there a specific amount or percentage you think people should put in to improve their appearance? When is it too much? When do you feel like people are complaining but didn't invest enough? etc.

These can include surgeries, products, wellness, etc.

• gato
• Replies: 2
• Forum: Beauty and Aesthetics

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[Flint]

Discussion Thread 'Do you believe in chosen family or only by blood?'

Feb 28, 2026

can you choose your own family? how do you define family? at what point do you differentiate somebody you consider family vs a friend or a relative?

personally, i think family is always chosen. blood means very little besides the fact you're stuck with most blood relatives since birth and don't have much of a say.

• gato
• Replies: 4
• Forum: Relationships

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Thread 'Is it really the damn phones?'

Mar 13, 2026

hola. another week, another question!

does your phone make your life worse? are you addicted to it? why do phones improve/worsen lives, or why does it do either for you personally speaking?

personally, yeah. i think my phone, esp the internet, only hurts me long term. i think with my phone because it's so easy to access there's no intentionality behind it. i work so my computer is way more intentional when i do finally have the time. my phone is with me during my breaks. etc

• gato
• Replies: 5
• Forum: The Lounge

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[shkypot]

I’m shaking in anticipation for the next one….

 

[Flint]

I’m shaking in anticipation for the next one….

@gato is leaving the people hanging

 

[got.daim]

@gato is leaving the people hanging

Fr

 

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Discussion Thread 'Can you fall in love with no shared interests, only core values?'

Apr 20, 2026

another question from gato WHAAAA NO WAYYYY


anyways,

i saw a post online recently that mentioned people who are looking for partners with shared interests and hobbies on dating apps are inherently robbing themselves of potentially good relationships. i was curious as to what everybody else thought about this mentality?

i agree personally. my husband and i met through games but im not a gamer at all. the only games i play by myself are social ones and thats when i have a specific homie im tryna catch or so. i dont game by myself otherwise and use games as a type of icebreaker during...

• gato
• Replies: 7
• Forum: Relationships

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