Seeking Advice What is it like being a woman

[got.daim]

What is the dating like, what struggles do you face day to day, I want to hear what life is like for you

@paris

 

[got.daim]

@gato and any other woman

 

[got.daim]

@ray

 

[paris]

What is the dating like, what struggles do you face day to day, I want to hear what life is like for you

@paris

see I don’t really think there’s too much of a difference between men and women on a day to day basis

however, I do believe it’s so much easier for guys to become friends. girls typically have a lot of secret animosity towards each other and it’s frustrating. you’d think that people who spend all their time together enjoy each others presence, but in my experience girls tend to take “keep your enemies closer” more seriously. guys can make one joke and immediately get buddy buddy with each other. in group work for classes it’s only acceptable for girls to group together cause typically guys don’t want one to infiltrate. different treatment.

There’s a double standard societally. I get judged for liking things that a guy would never be questioned about. There’s more things women are expected to pick up on. If I’m mean to someone I’m immediately labeled a bitch. If I don’t smile at someone I’m not welcoming. I have to be more socially conscious of how I present myself so that I’m accepted.

Dating wise is where the most expectations are. I’m supposed to be innocent, but have the confidence of someone who isn’t. Men claim they want virgins but don’t have the patience to put up with a girl who is uncomfortable with the thought of being that intimate with someone. you date people? Slut. You don’t? Loser freak weirdo. If I cared about what people thought life would be way more difficult.

 

[got.daim]

There’s more things women are expected to pick up on. If I’m mean to someone I’m immediately labeled a bitch. If I don’t smile at someone I’m not welcoming. I have to be more socially conscious of how I present myself so that I’m accepted.

It's the same for me, I have to do these things rationally, it isn't innate for me either because I have autism and do not pick up on social cues, I practice my facial expressions for hours in the mirror

Men claim they want virgins but don’t have the patience to put up with a girl who is uncomfortable with the thought of being that intimate with someone. you date people? Slut. You don’t? Loser freak weirdo. If I cared about what people thought life would be way more difficult.

hm, interesting, why don't you just date someone and then do not do the sexual things with them until marriage, that's what I'm planning on doing, but I'm afraid of getting cheated on, most women want sex or something today, the idea of even being thought of like that is making my chest heavy, the entire topic is nerve racking

There’s a double standard societally. I get judged for liking things that a guy would never be questioned about.

same for women, I can't be interested in certain 'feminine' things or else I'll be critiqued

see I don’t really think there’s too much of a difference between men and women on a day to day basis

hm, do you guys diet and workout too?
I will go over my daily schedule and we can compare

Wakeup
Row (rowing machine) for approx 2 hrs to stay lean
Workout (if it isn't a rest day)
Eat breakfast
Goto park, and swing on the swing set
Goto library and make any returns or pickups
Go home watch film if I got pickup
Make lunch, maybe read some cook books while eating
Read for a couple of hours
Do yard maintenance and take care of garden
Make business calls make sure everything is okay
Wash clothes or any household chores
Prepare outfit for tomorrow
Feed animals, change litter if needed
Shower
Make dinner, while eating read more of cook books or see if I can find more online
Order more ingredients if I'm out
Order more household items if out
Redlight + Duolingo
Then wind down with approx 30 minutes of reading

I tend to shitpost on forums throughout the day, inbetween or during activities

I am a truecel so I've just learned to give up on romance in general since it's something that I will likely just have to go without

 

[got.daim]

care of garden

I'm a pretty big user on a gardening forum aswell, not to brag, but I have 50+ followers heh

 

[ray]

@ray

some pros of being a girl:

-you can enjoy your beauty, act cute, cry and express emotions without needing to keep a stoic face
-if you are a beautiful and skinny girl people treat you kindly, they change the tone of their voice to a more pleasant one when talking to you, teachers raise your grades, a man might hold the door, random people want to talk to you “because you seem kind” (actually they just saw a girl with normal markers of health)
-if you are a beautiful and quiet girl (not closed off but a little shy) you will be liked by guys, if you are beautiful and funny / super sociable,girls will call you a “girl’s girl” like you are one of them
-you can earn money from your appearance / just your existence (onlyf)
some cons of being a woman:
-you are constantly objectified, a woman is often just a beautiful background(naked twerking)in the mvs of misogynistic rappers, in books by different writers you are sometimes just some supporting character who appears a couple of times and the author does not reveal you as a person at all, you are just like a pet or furniture….
-for a girl in a relationship with a man, beauty is the main if not the only capital, and it is a capital that will run out even before your beauty begins to fade, because a man is polygamous and he will constantly stare at other women even if you are the most beautiful blue eyed aryan virgin girl who never ages+super loyal,men will still desire other women, and it makes me sad to realize this sometimes
well something like that…
i think it is not easy to be a man either… constantly proving to someone that you are worth something…


i wish i could d1e right now… being a human is not easy

 

[ray]

It might seem like im bitter about life, but actually people have always treated me very well

since childhood (around the age of 9), I struggled with ed. I was never overweight, but I was afraid that people would feel disgusted if I became chubby, so I carefully watched my weight and was always active in sports (judo and track and field).

also from a young age I internalized the idea that “people judge a book by its cover”
ive never really had problems because of how I look… people are usually kind to me,strangers compliment me, some random guys can ask my number while im just walking at the park
But sometimes it’s sad to realize and wonder WHAT exactly people love me for.
It’s sad that there will probably never be a man who loves me for my good character, and that instead, when he sees me, he might feel lust and say that he likes me because I look kind….

 

[got.daim]

-for a girl in a relationship with a man, beauty is the main if not the only capital, and it is a capital that will run out even before your beauty begins to fade, because a man is polygamous and he will constantly stare at other women even if you are the most beautiful blue eyed aryan virgin girl who never ages+super loyal,men will still desire other women, and it makes me sad to realize this sometimes
well something like that…

Nooo, not me

since childhood (around the age of 9), I struggled with ed. I was never overweight, but I was afraid that people would feel disgusted if I became chubby, so I carefully watched my weight and was always active in sports (judo and track and field).

my sister had an ed but I never understood it

also from a young age I internalized the idea that “people judge a book by its cover”
ive never really had problems because of how I look… people are usually kind to me,strangers compliment me, some random guys can ask my number while im just walking at the park
But sometimes it’s sad to realize and wonder WHAT exactly people love me for.
It’s sad that there will probably never be a man who loves me for my good character, and that instead, when he sees me, he might feel lust and say that he likes me because I look kind….

well, idk how you look or anything and I think that you're a swell person overall (meaning good)

 

[ray]

Nooo, not me

my sister had an ed but I never understood it

well, idk how you look or anything and I think that you're a swell person overall (meaning good)

aww but there are definitely exceptions like u u r very cool& nice too btw how old r u?

 

[got.daim]

aww but there are definitely exceptions like u u r very cool& nice too btw how old r u?

I'm a 28 year old uncle

 

[ray]

I'm a 28 year old uncle

omg so old get out if this foruuuum

 

[ray]

omg so old get out if this foruuuum

JKKK